Notes of a Desolate Libra

Readers beware, it’s time for another rant and rave about how wonderful Libras are! Maybe.

I think it’s interesting how many people feel that guys and girls cannot be friends. There are only two sexes on this planet, and we can’t be friends? Isn’t that kind of wasteful?

The other day, on facebook, I saw a friend re-post his friend’s note about how in every man’s life there is a woman that he can never be with but the two can share many parts of their lives as well as be best friends, even with the other has found a partner. They will support each other to the end, without asking to be anything more than a friend. Easily said, but I sense ruefulness between the lines. The speaker WISHED he/she could be something more to the other person.

Friends? Lovers? Enemies?

I have also been told that if a guy wants to be friends with you, it’s generally only because he’s interested in you. Even if it doesn’t start that way, they always develop interest in you. And when they lose interest, then the relationship ends. Thus, men and women cannot JUST be friends. They always want something extra, something more from the other person.

But being a hard core Libra, I have the need to treat all equally and fairly, male or female. In that case, why can’t I be friends with both male and female? Gender aside, we’re all just human, no? Don’t we always SAY that we WANT to be treated equally? Well, I know, being a hypocrite is human nature, but let’s not blame too much on nature and throw our hands in the air.

I always joke about how I exist to disprove this theory that guys and girls can’t be friends, because my number of guy and girl friends are about equal. This doesn’t mean that during the time of the friendship, the two couldn’t have felt something romantic for each other, but you get pass it and then discover the other person for just a good “mind” or “person” and not reduced to a “male” or “female.” Though I admit, maybe it’s easier for some types of personalities.

True, Mars and Venus couldn’t get along. But that’s because they were Greek Gods (in their Roman names) and they were married – major case for drama. It doesn’t always have to be that way. Yes, we are man or woman, but that’s does not define who we are, at least not if you don’t want it to. Similarly, it shouldn’t be the defining factor of what gender the other person is. There must be some sort of attraction for people to want to be friends, perhaps I am naive, but I still believe that we can respect and love others just for who they are, and not what we want from them.

Musings Gender Wars, Greek Mythology, Libra

As a true Libra, I enjoy all things pretty. It’s just in our nature. However, sometimes I really wonder about what people say: beautiful women are generally [*sound of reverberating taiko drum*] up there. I enjoy treating my eyes to cute/pretty things (humans, animals… etc.), but sometimes, as soon as they speak, I go O_O… and slowly retreat. I am not an elitist, at least not anymore. I enjoy more and more the company of people and have come to appreciate the value in everyone and everything. Alas, sometimes I do wish that… that well… my initial impressions don’t come crashing down so often…

So the point is… no matter how good looking someone is, what’s inside counts much more in the long run. You can drool and whimper about how beautiful/handsome/hot someone is, but if you can’t have a decent conversation with this person… it’s still a drag, especially if you have to (want to) spend an extensive amount of time with this person.

For those who have both beauty and brains~ trust me, you are blessed. Enjoy it and be thankful! :) And this may have been my most politically incorrect post ever… :p Don’t burn me!

Musings Libra

Many people are wondering… WHAT!?!?! If you think your head is spinning, have a little pity for my parents. They’re probably wondering what they did to deserve such a strange daughter. :)

Yes, I’m headed back to New York City for at least 3 months, September-December. I have yet to decide whether I want to spend Christmas and New Years in New York or in SF area (probably down to SoCal with friends if I come back to CA). But that’s for another day.

When I left my old company on a LoA (it’d have been more problematic if I told them straight out that I was leaving), I brought in a friend to take over my position. The plan was that when I inform my ex-bosses that I was not going return to the company, he would permanently take over. It’s a win-win situation on all fronts.

But recently, my friend found a good internship opportunity that will span 3 months (Sept-Dec). Problem is, the company cannot wait for him for 3 months so he would end up jobless when he comes out of the internship, which is rather undesirable in this abysmal economy.

Being the one who always tries to find a solution where everyone benefits or at least suffers the least damage (yep, Libra), I came up with a strange plan… strange, but awesome if it worked: I would return to NYC and replace him at my old job for 3 months.

Look around you.

This way:
1) I can make some money before school (which could start in Oct or Jan, and this gives me more time to prepare for it) AND take WingTsun lessons from Sifu (YAY).
2) Sifu will get some front end help (if he needs it) because he’s expecting to be shorthanded come Sept.
3) My friend would have a job to return to.
4) There’s no disruption to work and my ex-bosses don’t need to spend money, time, and effort finding someone who may or may not be trustworthy.

There was the issue of my roomshare – I would have to leave it empty and pay rent for 3 months for a room I’m not using.

Incidentally, I have been in contact with another girl who is trying to move from NYC to SF (like myself) and I thought, why not ask if she’s interested in subletting my roomshare for the time that I’d be in NYC? It’d be good for her to have a friendly place to stay and really try out the city.

5) Apparently it was a good turn of events for her too.

So in the end, if everything works according to plan, 5 parties would benefit from this arrangement (not counting my parents and friends in NYC whom, I assume (lol), would be happy to see me before I implant myself semi-permanently in SF for school).

It just happened that this time everything fell into place. Sometimes I feel like there are always options and the solution is there, but we just fail to grasp/grab it. But when you’re ready, things will fall into place.

WT RULES!

There were a lot of lucky coincidences in this matter, but there were a lot of conditions, were they not mature, things would not have happened the same way. What if she wasn’t ready to move or I didn’t ask her? What if my boss wanted to hire someone entirely new? What if my school only opened admissions once a year? What if I had already committed myself to a job? What if…

I think in the end you should always prepare yourself and be ready to accept/work with all the opportunities that come your way. They may not come for days, months, or even years. But if you’re not ready for them, you will miss out on them when they do come along. The best thing is that the planning and personal development that you put into preparing are rewarding in themselves.

On top of that, I’m visiting Alex&Di in Canada for a few days and decided I would drop by and train with Sifu Carson Lau’s WT school in Richmond Hill for a day. Turned out that there will be a web channel interview on that day so I get to see a lot of cameras and WT demonstrations! WHOO HOO! (<-total geek when it comes to certain things…)

Of course… before all of this, I am still going on my trip to Yosemite, Lake Mono and Bodie.

So there… my latest… Run.

Musings, Travel Libra, New York City, San Francisco, Toronto, Travelogue, WingTsun 詠春

I just had to say this (traumatic incident happened with a fellow Libra*)…

Libras have a strong sense of the individual but are not individualists. They love community but do not blend themselves into everyone else. They just have… “personality,” but are not too obnoxious/loud about it.

You may never see the core of a Libra, but that’s how they can keep balance. Most people just can’t accept that they cannot possess a Libra’s heart in entirety… but it’s only because they are straightforward that you know there’s a part that they do not/cannot show you. They do not like to hide/keep secrets – not in their nature, they’re too lazy (that’s their motto).

Their spirits soar high, but their hearts are constant. This means that if they love you, they really do love you. You are a permanent resident in their hearts. They may run off far away once in a while, but really, please believe that they still love you and will come back to you. Unfortunately, many people do not understand this and choose to abandon Libras first. Libras generally handle heartache pretty well, but that’s because they spend their entire being on balancing themselves so they do not affect others. It’s usually a pleasure to hang out with Libras because they try not to let their internal emotional balance work affect you.

Libras are not flaky; they always carry things through to the end, even if that’s not the same end they expected; they always keep their promises, even if it takes a little while for them to get around to it.

Libras love to travel and try new things (that replenishes their life force), but they always know what the important things are to them and certain bottom lines would never be crossed.

It’s true, you may feel like you could never see the true heart of a Libra, but that’s because it’s so simple that you may not even recognize it even if it were laid out in front of you. Libras are strange creatures. You give them something and they will know to return in equal or more, but they only ask that you do not try to own them.

If you can accept all that, if you can love a Libra, then I assure you, you will be one of the luckiest man/woman. Most people don’t, which is why according to statistics Libras are (apparently) usually the last be married out of the twelve astrological signs, even though it would seem they should be the first to be married off because of their outgoing and pleasant personalities and overall qualities. Figures.

Can you see my true face? It's right *there*.

*I apologize if it seems oddly self-serving for me to be writing this since, obviously, I’m a Libra. But really, everything is from my heart. For you people who can’t see it. PUH! Don’t think Libras can’t get hurt/are cold! :p

Musings Libra, Love, 天秤座

The eve before I’m hop on a plane and attempt to build a new life in the other coast… there’s a lot of stuff going through my mind.

Duh.

Leaving my family, friends and beloved New York City behind and heading to a new city with the plan to settle in/down is not the easiest thing to do… especially when I don’t have a cushion like school or job. I’ve been running around like a mad-woman trying to see everyone (and still didn’t get to see all of my friends >_<) and getting everything together (somehow I managed – or will have to manage – to fit everything that I’m bringing into 1 suitcase, 1 carry-on, and 1 bookbag).

My life, in one suitcase, 1 carry-on, and 1 bookbag. Until I figure out what else I need.

But the most important things, the things that I value the most, I cannot take with me. Rather, they are always with me. I really liked what was said in the previous post about Libra: Libras may not contact you for a year, but when he/she sees you after that year, you’re still his/her best friend. That’s how Libras operate. So no, we never forget. You may think that we have forgotten because we’re not always around, but we do not forget.

I love New York. Most of my most beloved people are in NY. NY life suits me. I know I’ll be back. But for now… for my fleeting (yes precious) dreams and search, I’ll put down caution for adventure adventure – I shall walking the Fool’s Journey, for whatever it may hold.

Musings, New York City California, Libra, New York City, Tarot 塔羅, WingTsun 詠春